"Of all the ways we have found to hurt ourselves, the worse has been through love. We are always suffering because of someone who doesn't love us, or someone who has left us, or someone who won't leave us. If we are alone, it is because no one wants us..." Mata Hari in "The Spy", by Paulo Coelho
My wife and I were reflecting on the past year, whilst dining at a restaurant. I started to complain about something that hadn’t happened the way I wanted it to. My wife focused her attention on a Christmas tree that someone put there. I thought that she wasn’t interested in the conversation, so I changed the subject: “This tree has a beautiful illumination”�, I said. “Yes, but if you look carefully you can see one burnt light among dozens. “� It seems to me that instead of thinking of this year as dozens of enlightened blessings, you chose to look at the one light that did not glow”
Success comes to those who do not waste time comparing what they are doing with what others are doing; it enters the house of the person who says every day: ‘I will do my best.’ People who seek only success rarely find it, because success is not an end in itself, but a consequence. Obsession doesn’t help at all, it becomes confused as to which path to follow and ends up taking away the pleasure of living. The truly rich person is the one who is in contact with the energy of Love every second of his existence. You must have a goal in mind, but, as you go along, it costs nothing to stop now and then and enjoy the view around you. At such moments, it is important to ask yourself: ‘Are my values still intact? 'Am I trying to please others and do what they expect of me, or am I really convinced that my work is a manifestation of my soul and my enthusiasm? 'Do I want success at any price or do I want to be a successful person because I manage to fill my days with Love?’ Don't worry about the answers - you can always correct your course Do that in 2017. HAPPY NEW YEAR!
2016: CLOSING CYCLES One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through. Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters – whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished. You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that. But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister. Everyone is finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you paralyzed. . Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away (however painful it may be!). Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts – and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take their place. Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them. Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Move. Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood. Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else. Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the “ideal moment.”� Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back. Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person – a habit is not a need. This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important. Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life. Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust. Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.
Of all the ways we have found to hurt ourselves, the worse has been through love. We are always suffering because of someone who doesn't love us, or someone who has left us, or someone who won't leave us. If we are alone, it is because no one wants us... We forget that love is a blessing, not a debt. All we can do is TO LOVE without wanting anything in return